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Update Pt. 2

October 15, 2002
Update Pt. 2

I spoke with my Mom a few minutes ago; tonight, two minutes after they took dad off whatever machines he was on, he passed away. She was sounding more like herself, which is good. My sister is down there for as long as she needs to be, and our cousin, Jerry (possibly Mom’s oldest friend), is also there to lend a hand.

According to Mom, there’s going to be no service; Dad is going to be cremated quickly and he had no desire for a service. We’ll start working on the logistics of a request he made of me last year, should something like this happen. At some point — transportation of ashes dependent — we’re going to have his ashes scattered into the Mystic River in Connecticut, site of one of the great pleasures of his life: sailing.

When I was in high school, Dad kept our sailboat at a marina on the Mystic River, right below the rotating railroad bridge (if you know Mystic at all). He loved that sailboat, despite all the work it entailed, and some of his happiest moments later in life stemmed from sailing. So his desire was to have his ashes scattered in the river. Obviously, we have logistics to work out regarding this, but at some point, we’ll make sure he returns to the place of so much happiness.

With the lack of a service and so many other details still up in the air, there’s actually a very real possibility that we won’t be going down to Florida this week. Obviously, there’s much to be done and we won’t know more until tomorrow, but I do want to take a moment to thank everyone who has left us a note regarding the entire situation. Your prayers and thoughts have been welcome, and despite Dad’s non-religious nature, I suspect that as he makes his way to the Summer Country — or wherever his beliefs lead his spirit — he’ll appreciate the sentiments expressed by all.

I know I do.

I also want to thank my wife, Kim, the love of my life, for the support she’s given me today. I can’t imagine having to deal with this without you, babe. I love you.

17 Responses to Update Pt. 2

  • (((huge hugs)) I’m so sorry for your loss. Peace to you and peace to your dad wherever his spirit may be.

  • Praying harder than ever for you and all people affected by the loss of your father. I know it is small consolation but it sound like he did not suffer much at the end. Hopefully that can give you some peace. My deepest sympathy to you and all.

    Kim, watch after him for us all. He is indeed blessed to have you!!!

  • If there’s anything I can do for you, let me know. Have Kim give you a big hug and be at peace. {{{Scott}}}

  • Crap.

    I live very near Deland. If there is anything I can do for you or your family…any errands you need someone to run or ANYTHING…just let me know.

    Hugs to you all.

  • I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. My best to you and yours!

    I’m nearby, I think, in Queens. Let me know if I can do anything!

  • Someone else checking in from the Sunshine State – I’m very sorry to hear about this. All the best to you and your family.

  • My sympathies, Scott. Glad you have your wife to care for you, and good memories of your dad.

    Thinking of you,


  • Frank and I send our sympathies to you and Kim and your family. We are in CT, so if you need any assistance with the Mystic stuff please let me know. I wouldn’t offer if I didn’t mean it.

  • ((((Scott)))) My deepest sympathies. I’m sure your dad’s spirit is in a fine, safe, content place. I’m glad you weren’t alone through this. You’re a lucky man. Take care Scott.

  • Scott, I offer both you and your family my condolences.

    So long as you remember him in your thoughts and in your heart, he will never be completely gone from your life or this world.

  • Scott, I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. My heart goes out to you, Kim and your entire family.

  • Scott:

    I am saddened to learn about your father’s death. I hope that your support network gives you and yours comfort and contributes in a meaningful way to caring for your needs.

  • There’s little I can say to help with the loss, but know that you have my best wishes at this troubling time.

  • I am so sorry for your loss, Scott. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  • Thanks all, it’s truly appreciated.

  • Life consists of circles, and circles turn back home. My thoughts go with you in your time of sorrow. Namaste.

  • Oh my heavens. I’m so sorry! My heart goes out to you both, and to your mom.